【Session Report】My dear departed father had been showing me for a long time.

Today's client is a woman living in Tokyo who was struggling with her partnership. She has a fresh smile and is a brilliant woman who does everything without a hitch, but in reality, she is a hard worker who has been studying a lot behind the scenes.

Why such a beautiful and lovely woman? Partnership?

That's how the session started.

"I can never say I love you."

She had written this in the questionnaire before the session, and it was something that had been bothering me as well. Even though I understood the concept....

When I told her that we, the people of the earth, are love itself and that we are incarnated on this earth to learn love, her response was,

"Hmmm.... It is true that the word "love" is too abstract..." The session continued as it was.

However, what came to light during the card counseling session was her own past wounds.

She had lost her father so suddenly that she had no time to prepare herself. The deep sorrow of the past eventually became a fear of "sudden, cataclysmic changes" and "something changing suddenly.

When we talked about "love" earlier, the client also expressed this.

"I am afraid of how he will react if I tell him I love him. So, I can never say it."

---Don't you fear some kind of change, especially an outside change in what you say or do? What if his reaction is bad? What if he gets tireed of me...?

Actually, it's not the words "I love you."

It seems that at the root, the outside reaction to something you said, the outside evaluation (which sometimes makes you feel as if you are also changing), is defending you from the sorrow of the past into "fearing change".

The card pointed to the very message, "There is no need to be afraid of outside change.

That was the very message. No matter what happens outside, you are the one who adds feelings to it. Nothing will change for you there.

And the person who embodied this was my late father. Even when he was confronted with the reality of his illness, his decision was not "pain and despair," but rather, "Illness is illness, and I will continue to do the work I love.

He did not attach his feelings to outside events. And right up until the moment of his death, he was absorbed in the work he loved. After he passed away, it seems that he immediately went to heaven, and his family continues to peacefully remember and adore the departed.

"My father was doing very advanced things..."

Perhaps it was because her father had faced himself with sincerity that he was able to push the client to this session.

He said, "Don't be afraid of the outcome. What happens outside has nothing to do with you. If you think it's good enough, it's good enough."

I hope she can say "I love you" to him this time.